It's a NEW week, and a new body and mindset to approach as a long 6 days with my kids had me really think DEEP about what it really means to be a dad...

Ive gone through many spurts where I am feeling DAD OF THE YEAR and earning of this trophy ...

Then I have times where I feel worthless and that they would choose to dump me in the trash if they could. 

That's the price of fatherhood. You never can be perfect, and you learn over the course of DOING.....right? 

You see what worked, make changes and move on. 

Many times I felt the "need" to give my kids more things to do, by constantly taking places whether it was baseball games, kids play places, Chocolate world, zoo's and endless travel to have them know daddy loves them. 

I even risked taking to Sesame World ALONE and Great Wold Lodge twice! It was hard BUT they definitely still talk about those hotel trips, as I remember mainly the lack of sleep and long lines LOL

But after 3.5 years embracing the single dad life, I can honestly tell you that the more "go go go" you do with kids....

The more instability can happen when in a situation like mine. 

It's NOT that these trips dont have a place and benefit, but I know some of my BEST nights are the "Sundae Fundays" where we make ice cream together or the campfires with ghost stories. 

Kids DO like simple and sometimes as parents we try to overextend at our own dismay(health, happiness and sleep), to make them happy. 

While serving your kids is KEY, I am one to believe that the BEST dads are ones who set boundaries and also take care of their needs. 

You can't be selfish and be a good dad, but you can be proud of yourself and hold yourself to standards for your own happiness....

Otherwise look at what you are giving them? 

The leftovers? The out of shape, tired and low energy dad who knows how to open paychecks but can't remember the last time he asked his kids what it would feel like to be on the other side ....hmmm.....deep. 

But I know because I've been there and also coach hundreds of men each year and see this. 

I see them WANTING to be good dads but not realizing what that really means. 

I had a mentor and NY Best Selling Author Jon Gordon have these ten amazing tips: 

1. Love is the greatest parenting strategy there is.

 

2. If I can't walk the walk at home, I can't talk the talk out in the world. If you don’t live it there’s no power in what you say.

 

3. Being a Father requires you to be a leader and manager. As the leader you share the vision of what's possible for your children and as the manager you provide the support, guidance and coaching to help them make it happen.

 

4. I don't want my children to be what I want them to be. I want them to become everything God created them to be. They are not my masterpiece. They are God’s masterpiece. My job is to help shape and mold. 

 

5. A great question to ask your children... "What's it like to be on the other side of me?" Listen to their answers. They will make you a better leader and parent. 

 

6. Parenting will give you a crash course and a lifelong lesson in patience. So often you can’t force. You must surrender and allow things to unfold. 

 

7. If you are open to learning and growing your children will become your greatest teachers.

 

8. It's all about unconditional love. My children don't care how many books I write. They just want to know that I love them. It's not about who the world says you are. It’s about who you are to your children. 

 

9. No one is perfect. The goal is to learn from your mistakes and be better today than you were yesterday. Don’t beat yourself up. Just keep learning and growing. 

 

10. When your children fail, encourage them. When they succeed, encourage them. 

It's deep yes, and all I hope help you feel special as I know many of you reading this are saying I give my best and that is all you can do each day!

But if you KNOW you are falling short, you can't beat yourself up....

You need to get help and around other dads and learn from your mistakes. I would say 90% of it starts with your own personal care and love for yourself. 

DADS can't live in isolation and I've seen it wreck more and more....

So if you truly do want a way out, a way forward and a way to better fatherhood and a better body ----- I would be more than happy to help you, and give you my God given abilities to better your situation and educate you on what I've learned. 

If that's you, head here.....for a limited time I am offering FREE labs when you do my 3 in 30 program for MEN only! 

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God Bless, 

Mikey 

The LIES Men tell themselves

 The Lie Men Keep Telling Themselves

You don’t need help.

You’ve been solving problems your whole life. You built something. You showed up. You figured it out.

And yet here you are — exhausted, stuck, carrying more than you probably should —telling yourself the same thing you always have.

I’ll handle it.

I know this story. I lived it for years.

The Gym Taught Me Everything Except This...

I opened my gym at 22. By the time I was in my 30s, I had one of the top-rated gyms in Pennsylvania seven years running, over 5,000 clients coached, national press, an ABC news segment.

From the outside, it looked like I had it together.

Inside? I was running on cortisol and stubbornness.

I thought the grind was the answer. That if I just worked harder, stayed busier, sacrificed more — the problems would eventually fall in line.

That’s what men do. We outwork our pain. We out-hustle our fear.

But here’s what I didn’t understand: the same traits that made me a good gym owner were slowly destroying me as a man.

I was isolated.

Not physically — I was surrounded by people every day. But emotionally? 

Completely alone. No real brotherhood. No one I could tell the actual truth to. 

Just performance, day after day, with a smile.

And when things got hard — a divorce, burnout, health crashing, everything I’d built feeling like it was slipping — my first instinct wasn’t to reach out.

It was to disappear deeper into the work.

Isolation Doesn’t Look Like What You Think

Men are great at disguising isolation.

We call it discipline. We call it focus. We call it not being a burden on anyone.

But what it actually is — and I say this having been there — is shame wearing a work ethic as a costume.

Shame is quiet. It doesn’t announce itself. It just slowly convinces you that your problems are too embarrassing to share. That the people around you would think less of you if they knew the real version of what was happening.

So you stay busy. You scroll. You drink a little too much on weekends. 

You pour every ounce of energy into anything that keeps you from sitting still long enough to feel what’s actually going on.

I’ve watched this pattern destroy men. Marriages. Businesses. Bodies.

Not because the men were weak.

Because they were too proud to admit they needed another man in their corner.

What Happens When You Go It Alone

Here’s the biological reality nobody talks about.

Chronic isolation triggers your stress response the same way a physical threat does.

Cortisol stays elevated. Testosterone drops. Your nervous system never fully comes down from red alert.

You can eat clean. You can train hard. You can take every supplement on the shelf.

If your nervous system is stuck in survival mode, none of it works the way it should.

I watched this happen to my own body. I was doing everything right on paper —

Coaching people to health, eating well, moving daily — and still felt hollowed out. 

No energy. No joy. Results flattening out no matter what I tried.

The missing piece wasn’t a protocol.

It was people. Real ones. Men who’d been through fire and didn’t need me to pretend I hadn’t.

The Moment Things Started to Change

When I transitioned from running a brick-and-mortar gym to working online, I thought I was leveling up.

And professionally, I was.

But I lost something I hadn’t even noticed I had: proximity to other men.

In the gym, brotherhood happened by default. You suffered together under a bar. You watched each other fail and come back. 

You didn’t have to manufacture accountability— the environment created it.

Online, you’re alone in an office. Just you, a camera, and the weight of everything.

That’s when I started to understand what men are actually missing.

It was GREAT for my kids and I am blessed to be HERE for them while they are in a pivitol place in life....but I was missing more!

Not more information. Not another program. Not another expert telling them what to eat.

Men need a table to sit at.

A room where they can say the real thing and not be judged for it.

Where other men who have already walked through the fire can say, yeah, I know that place. Here’s what I did.

That changes everything.

Why Men Stay Stuck (And It’s Not Laziness)

I’ve coached thousands of people. And what I’ve learned is that men don’t fail because they don’t care.

They fail because they’re operating alone in systems that aren’t designed for them.

They’re getting health advice from people who’ve never been in the trenches with a family to feed and a business to run and a body that isn’t 22 anymore.

They’re trying to figure out faith, finances, food, fitness, and family — all five —completely by themselves, with no framework and no one to hold them to it.

And when it doesn’t work, they don’t ask for help.

They just try harder.

More intensity. More restriction. More willpower. More isolation.

The cycle repeats.

What Actually Breaks the Pattern

Tell the truth.

That’s it. That’s where it starts.

Not a perfect plan. Not a new supplement stack. Not another 75-day challenge you’ll white-knuckle through alone.

Just one honest conversation with a man who won’t judge you for it.

I used to think asking for help was weakness. Now I understand it’s the only move that actually works.

Every man I’ve watched genuinely change — not just lose 20 pounds but actually change— did it inside of a community. 

With accountability. With men who held the mirror up and

told them the truth about what they were doing to themselves.

Brotherhood is where shame dies.

It’s where the excuses stop having room to breathe.

It’s where you stop negotiating with yourself and start actually moving.

What I’m Building

I spent 16 years figuring out why people stay stuck physically.

The Four F System — Flush, Feed, Function, Fast — is the result of that. It works. I use functional medicine to dive deep into systems for VIP clients. 

The transformations are real.

But I kept running into the same wall.

Men would get the protocol right. Hormones improving. Gut healing. Metabolism rebuilding. And then life would hit — stress, a hard season, a setback — and without the right people around them, they’d fold.

Not because the system failed.

Because they were going it alone.

So I’m building a community.

A community for men who are ready to stop operating in isolation.  

Built around five pillars: Faith, Fitness, Family, Finances, and Food.

All five. Because you can’t separate them. 

The man who is a mess financially is going to have cortisol problems. 

The man whose faith is shaken is going to make worse decisions about everything else. 

The man eating garbage is going to be a worse husband and father.

It’s all connected.

Revive is where men come to address all of it — together.

Not a forum. Not a Facebook group with 4,000 strangers. A real table.

Real conversations. Real accountability from men who are in it with you.

If you’re tired of carrying everything alone, this is where that ends.

The way in --- PERSONAL contact. Yes, it requires you to step out of your comfort zone. 

That's the ONLY way you get invited in, is owning up to needing help. 

So you can text me 717-658-2552 and tell me you want info or want help, and ready for a brotherhood! 

If you PREFER to email, send one to mjover09@gmail.com ...

God Bless, 

Coach Mikey 

Proverbs 17:17: "A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity."