BUSINESS
MOVING
BABY
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Back in June, Meg and I decided we needed to move before she started back in school. 1000 Square feet wasn't cutting it with a large breed dog, a new baby, and a husband who collects more fitness supplies than Rogue themselves🤣.
So, on-top of the financial stresses of finding a home in the range we wanted, working out issues on ALL those fronts, finding the location we wanted, we ended up getting it done and I can finally take a deep breathe.
Did I mention we also run our annual Hot Mom Challenge the SAME month we moved, so the preparation and backend work nearly put me in a coma....but it was all worth it! We are helping so many moms and Meggy is loving the new home...along with Noah and of course Brea!
I even went a little overboard with excitement and spent any little bit of "no" free time I have, haha, building a mini OAF....(for where some SERIOUS transformations are going to happen with some up close, 1-1 training with me coming soon!)
But it's getting there, and I can't wait to start using it and getting some killer workouts and helping more people who may live closer to me and want to work with me when I review applications(If you want added, please send me a message and I'll send you over the application!)
Anyways, that is not my topic for today....so let's get right to it.
I know many of you can relate, but I am struggling. Struggling with this whole new life I am thrown into now being a father and someone Noah counts on and is looked up to!
It may seem silly....but it's true!
I even had a great friend remind me yesterday about how I need to just embrace the change and accept the fact that things will never be the same. I lived the last 6 years of my life focusing on MEG and myself and OAF. Adding Noah put so many things out of line for my Type A personality.
I am super regimented, very "to the book" and I try to work to perfection sometimes so having Noah has thrown me for a giant loop.
A lot of the "I's" have turned into "HE'S" and all our attention and primarily MEG'S attention goes directly to him.
I get it, and know why it is that way...but as I told my buddy yesterday....I almost feel like I am "dad jealous."
For all these years I had Meg to turn to for help. She was my saving grace that slowed my brain down and MADE me relax because I never took time for myself unless she forced me to or I got sick, haha.
But the reality of it now is that she is so consumed with Noah that I quickly had to learn back to my roots of being more independent so she can do the best she can raising our child.
Sure, I am right there by her side, but we all know the female in the relationship has more to deal the the baby stages.
So, today I had a realization that things will NEVER be the same....and for the past few weeks...I was upset.....I would fight it....I would take out anger with it and keep asking myself WHY....
* "Why can't I get up at 4:15am everyday anymore and get right to work and have a large chunk of my day done by 9am?"
* "Why can't I feel rested and always energetic and ready to rock like I used to?"
* "Why can't I get time to relax and unwind without worrying about a baby, dog, or house that needs taken care of?"
* "Why do I suddenly feel like 30 is the new 60 when it comes to how my body feels?"
* "Why can't I get all the hugs, cuddles, and smiles Noah gets everyday?"
* "What is WRONG with me?" Why can't I be the person I used to be?
It was until this conversation I had with my buddy that I realized he was RIGHT.
I can't live in the past. I can't live off what "used to be." The mere fact of the matter is that it will NEVER be the same. I will NEVER be what I once was....
But what I also needed to tell myself, is that it WILL BE BETTER.
I have to embrace the change and make it my NEW LIFE, a BETTER life, and my FAMILY. The important thing he said in our conversation that stuck out to me was that Noah is going to be my LEGACY.
He is a piece of me that I will leave on this earth, and it's up to me to control how and where that goes.
Maybe I was selfish, maybe I was just sticker shocked with the change....which is why I am so driven to succeed with work and life.....but the reality of this whole thing is that my NEW life is a BETTER life.....it's just a matter of my perspective and how I deal with each new challenge.
What would I rather be known for? Building a business and never veering outside those reigns....or doing it all while growing a family and embracing the challenges and AMAZING things that come with that...
It relates so well to ALL areas of life, and what I am finally getting at for my topic today. The mind is a powerful tool and how you balance it controls your thoughts and feelings in any given situation.
You can either let your mind tell you working out will hurt, be awful, a waste of time OR you can tell yourself about how it will make you feel BETTER, release endorphins, help you get stronger, and lose weight you want.
You can go to work dreading your 9-5 or embrace the fact you HAVE a job that pays you well enough to support a family!
There are millions of people in our country that would give anything to be able to provide for themselves let a lone a family!
So I need to be more grateful, and so do you!
I know transitioning to having a newborn would be difficult, and they try to prepare you for what's to come....but it's never helpful until you see it happen yourself....
And I had a bit of a shock. I tried everything I could to help our family be OKAY while Meg did what she needed in the baby stages. But now it's time for me to adopt a new role and be thankful for the opportunity I have to be a dad and father to such a beautiful, blessed boy!
This new change I took hard. I tried to be perfect in every-way I could, while stressing myself out over why I couldn't be the "Mike" of old. I wanted to so badly that I would force myself to do it all and it nearly had me collapse.
So right now I am focusing on the "new me." I am embracing this beautiful boy we brought into the world.
I am letting go of what "used to be" and empowering myself to become a "better me" with all new beginnings and regimens.
The best way to describe it.....
Forget the past....Live in the present. Make use of all your time, and don't wish moments away the precious moments you get with your beloved family.
Sure, I will alway remember and enjoy the times I spent building my business, my life, and the amazing times with just Meg and I....but right now, I am focusing on the amazing days with my FAMILY and whats to come with trips, parties, and bonding time....while still taking all the sleepless nights, longs days, and times spent on things other than me....and giving grace to God that I am able to have a family and grow one....
Especially when to this day my mother was unsure how I could do such a thing!😂
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